Why I Don't "Dudedoir"

So, a post/article goes up and is instantly viral because it is a guy in no shirt and overalls pouring milk over his body while he strikes a pose or now a guy who is doing the "basic" poses with a Starbucks cup/bottle/everything.

I shoot males and I want to empower them just as much as I want to empower women. I don't do pinup as its realllllllly not my vibe. I bring this up because yet another post is going viral and I'm sure you are going to see it if you haven't already floating around Facebook. While yes, he's attractive and all - the idea of the shoot is complete mockery. I borrowed some words from a facebook group where I am a member. I would really like to know what you think of this.

"Actually, we aren't okay with "hilarious dudedoir" around here, for MANY reasons. First, it makes a complete mockery of boudoir, and women's empowerment. Second, it makes a complete mockery of men's intimate portraiture. Third, it makes a joke out of men of size that are already marginalized and under represented in sexy images, making it even harder for them to find the courage to experience boudoir, and nearly impossible for photographers to book clients like this. And before anyone @s me to tell me to get a sense or humor, and it's just for fun, it isn't. It demeans our entire industry, regardless of the intentions."

"Men deserve to feel sexy too. Not "Dudedoir" that basically makes fun of men attempting to be sexy while doing feminine posing. But real, masculine posing that embodies the male spirit and sexuality." (I'll follow up by saying if a male is more of a femme spirit, that is different - she isn't trying to speak on the queer community but more of heteros mocking).

AND maybe the most important: "As a man with body image issues this does not make me laugh. I went to camp and hid from most of the people who asked me to pose. My biggest fear was that I would look like a joke because of the way I look. I have fought with body issues, and suffered through an abusive relationship which fed my issues even more. I'm trying hard to push through and love myself, but things like this really don't help. I'm not upset it was posted, but I think its something people should consider before posting stuff like this. It's hard to talk about because as a man I'm supposed to just suck it up and not have body issues."

However, I definitely shoot male boudoir. Male intimate portraiture. Or however you want to call it. But please, don't call it "dudedoir."


The Day, The Evening, The Morning

Can I make a confession? I have only shot a few ACTUAL couples. This is one of them. And it gets HOT. If you are looking a photographer who is okay with a little risqué (yes, I rhymed it on purpose lol)… then bring it ON!

As always, here are some words directly from my clients… because who cares how I feel? lol.

“This was my first boudoir shoot and it was honestly the most fun I’ve ever had during a photo shoot. Julie made it easy for us to feel comfortable and relaxed. She let us have the creative freedom to do what we wanted but also gave us guidance when we needed it. The final photos were absolutely stunning and I’m in awe of how sensual she made it all look, even though I feel, we spent most of our time laughing.” - Alanna

And from Candida, you’ve seen her on several of my blogs and this was one of our favorite sessions together, I think.

“I have done boudoir photos in the past but this was my first couple’s boudoir shoot. I admit I was a bit nervous before the shoot but once we started I had so much fun! Julie has a way of making us both feel super comfortable and sexy! It felt great that we were both able to just be ourselves. I love, love, LOVE how the photos turned out! This whole experience was truly magical and it definitely has a way of making you feel closer to your partner by being able to see your love in a whole new way.” - Candida Valentina

So, there you go! It’s fun, we laugh, we make amazing photos. There’s no reason not to book your session now. Hope you enjoy all of this series.

Bathtime Boudoir Session

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I had such a great time doing this photoshoot with Julie! Not only is she professional and talented but she’s super down to earth and makes you feel like you’re just hanging out with a friend. She really helped me relax and enjoy myself during the shoot, and helped guide and direct me into the most flattering poses! (Have you seen the one with the cleavage and booty!? I couldn’t have managed that by myself!) I traveled from Atlanta to do my photoshoot and it was definitely worth the drive (and an easy trip). I love the photos she captured soooo much! I plan on doing another boudoir shoot with her soon! Everyone should give it a try! 
- Sarah aka @darlingjosie

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